Asking for Help: The Fastest Path to Business Success

I don’t know why but some of us seem to be hard-wired to go it alone! I know that my tendency is to figure it out for myself before I will ask for help. Yet over the last few years, I’ve learned to embrace that asking for help is not a reflection on my inability to go it alone, but in fact a reflection of how much I think what I do and who I am is worthy of receiving help.

Here are 3 simple ways to ask for help in your business that will move you towards success with much more ease and grace:

1. Inner Circle Support

I’m blessed in that I have a husband who supports the work I do and the business I’ve been creating since its inception in 2001. Yet I know this is a hot button for a lot of entrepreneurs, that they don’t feel they have the spousal or partner support they crave.

While I don’t have THE answer to getting your significant other onboard, I did have a personal aha that I will share that may help a bit.

The bottom line is that it doesn’t matter if your spouse, partner, parent or anyone else significant in your life thinks what you do matters. It only matters that YOU think it matters.

Logically, you know you can’t change people, only your response to people. You may wish you felt more support than you do, but wishing won’t make it so. What will change your feeling is if you change how you feel about what you perceive to be their lack of support. If you remember that it only matters that YOU know what you do matters, that will make all the difference.

2. Peer Support

Whether you invest in a group with a leader or gather your best business friends together on a regular basis, give yourself the gift of peer support in some way. It’s critical for ongoing help but even more important during those times when you’re between private mentor support.

At an event I attended recently, I was surrounded by colleagues who had become friends over the years, and it was very clear to me that the support I was receiving from those friends was more important that the actual content I had come to learn. But if I hadn’t reached out asking for that support, I wouldn’t have had the critical shifts I needed to experience at this point in my business to move it forward.

3. Outside Support

Sometimes we need support for our business from places outside it altogether. Whether it’s engaging in a favorite sport, hobby or activity, or meditating or journaling, taking time off and completely unplugging, or having a conversation with a supportive friend who doesn’t have anything to do with what we do for work and just might have that unique perspective to shift ours that we need.

Where in you life can you ask for support that will help your business?

And that’s the point – to ask for the support we need. Take it from a former lone ranger… once you start asking and stay open to receiving, miracles can happen.

Designing a life you love that’s supported by a business you love is one of the pillars on which I stand and teach. Learn how to do this for YOUR business (and life) at my annual Online Business Breakthrough Workshop HERE.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this in the comments below…


  1. Hi Alicia,

    So to the point! I am breaking out of the idea that I must do everything myself and generate every idea. My spouse wasn’t so supportive until I changed my attitude and started to include him and encourage his comments.

    With wider family I find that I have to stand firm not to be swept along by their ideas which do not always correspond to mine, but I have found that the more open I am the more helpful other people are!!

    I hope this encourages other new practitioners to overcome their hesitation and get asking.

  2. Thanks for everyone’s comments!
    Help and support a intricately linked. When you ask for help, you open yourself and all your attitudes, prejudices and strong ideas to change, and that has to be an important part of growth.Without that growth, there is stagnation. You can still grow on your own, but the pace of growth is far superior if there are mirrors reflecting clues back to you. Hence the invaluable support of a partner. My supportive partner Rhona has always been there for me, and I have always admired her courage in telling me a few home truths!

  3. Excellent advice. I’ve had VA throughout my 20 years of being a solopro, which as been wonderful to have that extra set of hand, ears and eyes.

    However, it’s only in the past 2 years that I’ve reached out for personal support from my business friends. Moving across country and settling in a strange place (keep Oakland weird!) was stressful and made me doubt myself many times. I so appreciated having my peers ‘hold my hope’ until I could get my mojo back again.

    Now, I love having a circle so much I planned my next event with the express purpose of creating a community of entrepreneurs to play around with all year long. We all want to be helpful so asking for help gives someone else a chance to feel good, too.

    Thanks Alicia for reminding me


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