3 Mindshifts from Ali Brown’s SHINE

Last week, I shared the 3 a-ha's I had from attending Ali Brown's Online Success Blueprint Workshop about a year ago (if you missed it, you can read it here).

Now I'd like to share with you some of the insights I came away with from attending SHINE (other than the fact that I really dislike Vegas – ugh).

1. I'm still not a joiner…

After Ali's event last year, I realized that I'm not a joiner. It became very clear to me how much an individual I am at that event – in a good way. Meaning that I've become very comfortable and confident in my own skin, in who I am as a person, both personally and professionally, without even realizing it. And my mindshift then was this, "My success does not depend on the 5 people I surround myself with. My success depends on me."

I've since modified it to this:

Mindset Shift: My success depends on me, AND is enhanced dramatically when I surround myself with the right people.

2. I'm still not a competitor…

Once again, I met so many success-driven AND purposeful business owners who validated my belief in abundance, that there is more than enough for everyone – and then some.

My mindshift a year ago was "I don't compete. I don't compare. I just am."

A slight modification now…

Mindset Shift: I don't compete. I don't compare. I just am shining my unique brilliance.

3. I'm still not your average mompreneur

Ok, this one actually did shift quite a bit for me. There were some amazing women at the event who also have families. Women who've built milllion-dollar businesses in just the last year or two. And I admire and applaud them for what it must have taken to make that happen.

What I realized is that, for me, is either I'm not that driven, competitive or want to work that hard. Perception is everything, and this is simply my own.

Mindset Shift: I'll make my million – on my terms, in my time.

So what do these mean? For me, it means that I'm stepping into the next higher vision of myself and my business, in the way that is most meaningful and authentic to me. It means that I'm embracing the role of the woman business owner who is as serious about her business as she is about her family, and that her family comes first.

It means I'm ready to blaze the trail and keep the light burning for those who want to design their successful business around what's most important to them. For me, that's my family. For you, it might be something else.

What to come along? Feel free to leave your comments below…

(c) 2009 Alicia Forest

About the author:  Alicia M Forest, MBA, 6-Figure Business Breakthrough Mentor, teaches self-employed professionals how to attract more clients, create profit-making products and services, make more sales, and ultimately live the life they desire and deserve. For FREE tips on how to create wild abundance in your business, visit http://www.ClientAbundance.com


  1. Hi Alicia,
    Enjoyed this post as well as its predecessor. Fav line? Mindset Shift: I’ll make my million – on my terms, in my time.
    Making a million needn’t become a race with a deadline. That defeats the purpose of being your own boss and calling your own shots. As you say so wisely, we each cherish something different.
    Me, I want to live while I’m alive, savory all the juicy moments …
    Thx! Giulietta

  2. That 3rd mindset shift is SO valuable…worth way more than millions. It’s so easy to get caught up in measuring our value in dollars while overlooking all the other yardsticks. I do sometimes wonder what kind of empty psychological holes all these online (and offline) prosperity “gurus” are trying to fill with all their millions. I can’t help but wonder if dollars are, for some people, their “drug” of choice. Thanks for your level-headed perspective.

  3. Hi, Alicia
    I’m happy to see that you model modifying your mindset shifts. It’s so important to continually adjust both goals and mindset to get us to our goals. As I’m growing my two businesses, each one is continually being tweaked along my journey. It’s important that those of us who have followers model that it’s okay to adjust your goals as you grow, both personally and professionally.
    Thanks for being transparent with this.
    Tracey Fieber

  4. That’s one of the things that attracts me to you Alicia. It’s not about building an empire – it’s about building a lifestyle business around your family. I want that too. 🙂
    Sandy Rees

  5. I’ll make my million – on my terms, in my time…

  6. Hi Alicia,
    Love your Mindshift #2: “I’m not a competitor.”
    And yes, for me as well, it’s all about collaboration, not competition…
    Your beautiful post says it all…

  7. Alicia, thank you for sharing! They are all so powerful and being your comfortable self, you are controlling and working your destiny as you see fit. That is more powerful than any model I have seen or purchased.
    Congratulations for your AHAs!

  8. I can see a lot of myself in every mind shift you mentioned, but the most meaningful to me, is #3. Building my business around my family, not building my family around my business.
    I wanted to be my own boss so I could enjoy my family and life as it unfolded, minute by minute.
    Thanks for inviting your readers to comment! Stephanie

  9. Hi Alicia,
    Thanks for your note. I also loved mindset #3. After coming through a significant life challenge, I am rebuilding my business from the ground up.
    It can be tempted to try to BE like others rather than let myself BE myself learning from the others.
    I am in Kendall’s Platinum group and though you and I haven’t officially met yet, I find your story quite inspiring and I look forward to learning from you!
    Thanks for this great post!

  10. Hi Alicia,
    Not even sure how I stumbled onto your site, but I sure am glad I did. I just came off your 6figure solo business audio and had a life changing moment in regards to my next step for my business. And now, read this post, Your #3 Mindset shift really resonated with me. I look forward to our paths crossing as I move ahead. Thank you again. With Gratitude, Shauna

  11. Hi Alicia,
    Hooray for you, and Mindset #3! My husband and I, after attending Kendall’s MMSI with you in Tuscon last month, decided we were not going to ‘drive hard’ to get our business to $1 million dollars.
    The reason is we decided it did not represent the lifestyle we want. Half that amount will be fine for us 🙂 I have owned and managed a multi-million dollar business, and I can tell you, it is work.
    Your honesty is refreshing amid all the clamour to ‘become a million dollar business owner.’

  12. You speak to my heart with your realizations after the Ali Brown weekend. I’d say that meeting you and the many other amazing women was the most memorable part of this event. Your dedication to your family is heartwarming.

  13. I was doing a search and came across this website. Must say that this info is great! Keep writing more. Will be reading your sites

  14. Hi Alicia
    what a wonderfully motivating and refreshing viewpoint. I understand what it’s like to move in a different direction to the herd, but your insight shared here highlights wonderfully “the middle way”
    well done

  15. Funny, I had the exact same thoughts this past week while nursing my baby.

    It felt very freeing to realize I’m just not meant to do things like everyone else.



  16. I’m glad I found your site, love your point of view! For me and my situation, you are spot on! I am not a competitor, yet I have a the desire and drive to be successful in my own right. I don’t feel a need to get caught up in the race to the top, however, I pride myself on building real relationships and success on my terms and at my pace. Family always comes first for me, so I work at my own pace and try to keep a healthy balance.


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